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Don't get me wrong, it isn't like we have a choice.
Dating is one of those things which is only semi-controllable by humans.
There are those lucky individuals who will marry the first or second person they dated.
They will fall in love at first sight and be loved back instantly.
They are the people who get to their spouse destination on the express track,
without stopping at the Rejection stop.
Without stopping at the Will-I-Ever-Get-Married stop.
Without stopping to realize that you are broken and need to be mended.
Without crashing into any scary guys.
Without going off the tracks and having to get back on again.
And then... and then there are the lucky ones who wait forever for the guy to come, and when the guy finally arrives, they realize it is the wrong one.
And they keep on waiting.
Waiting and dating.
And it takes those poor folks forever to get to their destination.
What's the payoff?
I'm not sure.
Perhaps by the time they arrive at marriage they are more mature, perhaps they know how lucky they are to have found such a phenomenal spouse?
Perhaps they aren't so happy because they have times where they wish they could have married the other twenty dates that dumped them.
And perhaps... perhaps it is about the journey... and not the destination.
So, I don't know which way for dating is better: express or local...
Do you?
I would call for a balance.
ReplyDeleteWhile I find myself obsessing, against my rationality, about marriage, I believe that it is a good thing I didn't marry at 21. I don't think I was ready then; I think a lot of people aren't ready then.
My cousin got married now just short of 19. And all I feel for her is pity. Is it warranted or not? I don't know. But she can't understand how hard it will be, even though she raised her little brothers.
I think, yes, I will have a deeper appreciation for what is yet to come. Does that mean those who marry young don't? No, not necessarily. But different people are at different places at different times.
I think the people that get married at first glance are lucky of they have a happy marraige. but i fthey do, than i am pretty sure that statistically, these cases are rare and that is why they are called "lucky"
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