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I keep on changing my opinions about break-ups.
Let's keep this one to short term relationships: 1-6 dates.
If you know you want to break up with a guy, do you make him come to you and break up in person?
Or do you do it on the phone to give him some privacy?
If you decide to do it over the phone, do you call him as soon as you decide, or do you wait for him to call and then end it? Perhaps he was going to end it himself?
Do you thank him for taking you out?
Do you tell him you like him (if you really did)?
Do you keep it curt?
Do you talk first?
Do you wait for him to talk?
I broke up with a guy last night.
I really liked him, but I just felt like we had nothing in common.
I feel so sad that it had to end.
You are probably thinking to yourself that I am an idiot for ending it if it didn't have to end.
And perhaps I am.
There are things I am looking for in a husband. He didn't have some non-negotiable objectives.
Isn't it important for us to have the same ideals?
Its the worst when you actually do like the guy but know that it can never move on because of things that are as you said "non-negotiable"
ReplyDeleteI generally have the shadchan do it..it may be the easy way it out but that is the one benefit of this system.
Is it in a way harder the fact that you are the one that has to break up with him instead of being broken up with? I always wondered when a girl breaks up with a guy for pure logical reasons even after 4-5 dates if she really liked him, how long it would take to get over the guy?
DeleteIf he doesn't have your ideals- he's definitely not your husband. Didn't go through the shidduch system so I never broke up with someone after only a few dates, and it was much harder to do later on after getting connected and building memories. I would suggest always being polite and saying thank you (unless the guy was an absolute jerk!) but being honest and saying that it's not exactly what you're looking for, or something like that :)
ReplyDeleteSo does this make you a jerk?
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